Welcome! I’m Rebecca Winfrey. Thank you for visiting my site.

You’ll find:

Short Reflections for when you have a quiet moment, longer stories I’ve called Life Questions and articles I’ve written on Shame.

Having been a hospice doctor and studied for a masters degree in pastoral theology (thoughts about God applied to real life), I’m passionate about questioning things people say about faith whenever they appear to jar with my life experience or that of my patients, clients or friends. One area in which that happens is shame, which is often ignored by the church, but shouldn’t be, and that’s an area of particular interest for me. There’s too much tragedy in the world to be satisfied with pat answers that don’t take account of people’s real life experience.

I hope you will find questions to ponder here, and that you will join in with my search for wisdom by following, commenting, and sharing!

Latest from my blog


I stood in the middle of the African hospital compound and howled. I’d just received a message that my fiance could not visit that weekend. A tsunami of distress floored me. We’d endured so much during the last few months. We’d had the frustration of being posted to different hospitals. We’d suffered the lack of […]

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Life question: Why is it so hard to trust God? (1)

When people say happily ‘God has never let me down’, I’m tempted to retort ‘Really?’ When you prayed that your relative wouldn’t die from cancer, and they passed away, could you really say it didn’t feel as if God had let you down? When you asked for a new job and your applications bore no […]

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Reflection: That elusive Christmas spirit

I’ve had odd Christmases before. There was the Christmas day in Uganda when we emerged from a morning church service to the sight of a young man parading down the street. As he turned his head towards me, four eyes caught mine, not two. Slowly I realised he had an inverted cow’s head balanced on […]

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