Life Question- Should Mum Move in?

When I was a medical student, our teachers asked us asked to have a discussion about whether we were responsible for caring for our parents in their old age. To my shock, fully half of those present said they wouldn’t care for their parents when they were older. Some didn’t see why they should; others […]

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Quote of the Day: It Mattered

Originally posted on Don't Lose Hope :
“So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better, or that there are worse things in the world. But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me…

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Shame Article: Confusing Guilt and Shame

Let’s imagine what happens if we try to help someone suffering from shame by using our usual method of explaining Jesus’s death.   Rebecca: Oh hi Sarah – how brilliant to see you! How long is it since I last saw you? About a year? It was last Easter wasn’t it?  Sarah: Yes, and it’s been a pretty rubbish year, too.   Rebecca: Oh no, what’s happened?  Sarah: […]

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Life Question: Denying reality (2)

March 23rd 2020 2pm. Weekly church staff meeting. How were we doing in the light of the government’s announcement the previous week that we should all be working from home if possible?. We sat round the staff room table trying to begin to think ahead and plan for the possible effects of the epidemic. We […]

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Shame Article: The three questions homeless people ask about faith

So many times at the drop-in we run in the church where I volunteer I have been talking to someone who is caught in an impossible cycle. They were abused as children, which continues to give them mental health problems. Because of the mental health problems they can’t get work. Because they can’t get work […]

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Life Question: Denying Reality (1)

The tax return form sat in my Dad’s in-tray month after month, ignored, though the deadline loomed.My mother tried to remind him about it gently, and was brushed off with ‘It’s OK. I’ll do it’. But he didn’t. And she began to wonder if he didn’t because he couldn’t. He already had a diagnosis of […]

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Reflection: Street preacher

  A shiver runs through me when I recall you, street preacher:  you stand there, politely dressed, in a neat space between market stalls,   a small black book in hand  externally polite, respectable, friendly even  but with a stream of horror pouring out of your mouth.  ‘Aren’t you afraid?’ you ask the passers-by.   ‘If you […]

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Life Question: The hazards of teaching responsibility

I let out an involuntary gasp as I turned over the price tag. This child’s ski jacket was unbelievably expensive. But of course it was. If someone needed to buy a ski jacket in this village high in the Austrian mountains, the shop owners could charge what they liked. A ski jacket when skiing was hardly an […]

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Life Question: When the road ahead gets foggy

It was very hard to understand God’s guidance once I became depressed. My husband was convinced he was called to work as an overseas missionary doctor. When we met, he thought that in me he had found someone who would partner him in working overseas. We trained in cross-cultural mission, applied and set off to […]

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Life Question: On privacy

It helps no-one if you don’t ask for what you need We’d been in our new house in Uganda about a week when the hospital chaplain called. He’d come to make sure that I was going to behave as a medical superintendent’s wife was supposed to behave, it turned out. He’d been disappointed that my […]

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